Hello everyone and thanks for stopping by! I have been with my husband for 14 years, married for 8 years. I would say within that time frame we’ve been through a lot with each other. We have two beautiful children, a 5 year old son and 3 month old daughter who are our biggest blessings. All these great years together, through ups and downs, I like to remember what these meanings I’ve lived by to keep our marriage that much stronger.
Take with what you want, if these are not your idealistic beliefs, I respect that. But these are my words , my views and I hope that you could use them too.
My Secrets to a Successful Marriage
If you don’t have an open line of communication between the both of you then you have to evaluate how the two of you communicate. It is not easy to bring up issues or concerns but it’s better than holding it in or feeling resentful of one another.
TIP: Try talking after you’ve calmed down. Think before you speak and know what you say when it comes out of your mouth, you cannot take it back.
You have to remember to keep that spark alive. Love can mean a lot of different things. Not just the sexual aspect but it can be the act of doing something for your spouse that will immediately show them how much you truly mean to them. Yes, having that sexual bond is very much apart of this description as well. Making sure to appreciate each other and each others needs sexually is another bond that makes that love grow and stay vibrant.
TIP: Make him/her feel that much special by sending them a text or giving them a call randomly during the day to tell them how much you love them. Sometimes being a parent and finding that “alone time” is hard, so take any time that is free to appreciate each other and act like the young and silly couple you know you both are.
Without trust amongst each other you will never be able to give your soul and feel confident in your marriage. If you break that trust and choose to rise above it, just remember once you forgive you have to truly and honestly forgive.
TIP: Point blank- breaking trust is a hard break to mend. But remember, you and your spouse know each other well, make sure to always be truthful and honest. You know that saying “honesty is the best policy”? Yeah, that applies in this instance.
Respecting each other when it comes to your marriage is key. You become comfortable and you forget that knowing each other really well can bring out feelings you never knew you had. Not necessarily to intentionally hurt your spouse but enough to make some small wounds.
TIP: Arguing or debating, whatever you want to call it, make sure you take turns. Everyone deserves their point to be expressed, even if you can’t understand. Be kind and make sure to really listen.
You should consider your spouse your best friend. Why? Well, why not? They should be the first person you lean to when you feel down and the first person when you want to share a laugh. You enjoy all the ups, the downs and that is the beauty of your friendship.
TIP: Being each others best friend is a bonding experience in itself. Make sure to share your goofy stories and have a game night with your closest friends to show off your bond. Remember, some of you may remember that you did start off that way, as friends. Don’t you remember how fun that was?
(Now let me just give the disclaimer- I am not a licensed therapist, nor am I claiming to be.)
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